There's a way to grow up Christianity and a way not to. I definitely feel like I grew up the wrong way and had to find my way out of it.
My friend and I started a new show called "Teenage Bounty Hunters" on Netflix. If you like cringy but funny Netflix shows this one is for you.
But the story line is about these teenage girls that go to a preppy, private, Christian school. They're going through the struggles of being a teenager in high school, let alone Christian school. If you didn't go to a Christian, private school, allow me to elaborate.
The things these girls go through are like having sex before marriage and drinking alcohol. Once people figure this out they are immediately looked down on and attacked for their decisions. They make these girls feel like they can never be forgiven, like they committed the ultimate sin. And this is the kind of faith that people should not be raised in.
This is how I grew up. I grew up going to private school for 13 years and sheltered completely. It took going to college to realize that a lot of these things are wrong? yes. Unforgivable? No. Bad things to talk about? No.
It used to be the most uncomfortable thing for me to talk about or even be around because I thought that even talking about it was wrong and inappropriate. But it's not. In fact, it's something that should be talked about.
The girl in the show said she would have never told her mom what happened because she felt like she couldn't. I don't care how religious you are, your kids should never think that they can't tell you things because you will be disappointed in them. They should feel like they can tell you anything because you will be judgement free and simply help guide them through what they're going through.
Being a Christian is about accepting people for who they are and being judgement free. Sure, the things you believe are wrong can be wrong in your eyes but it doesn't mean you should judge other people for their actions and patronize them for it. That has to be my biggest pet peeve about faith. People believe it's their job to tell people they're wrong and to fix them. It's not.
I always try my best to be judgement free and not condescending because I dealt with that all through middle school and it doesn't help the situation at all.
Moral of the story, no kid should ever feel like they can't talk about something because they'll be judged. If that's how you feel, you need to find someone to talk to because holding it all in is not the answer.
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